Valentine’s Day gets a lot of hype. Hearts everywhere, couples content overload, and a not so subtle message that romance only counts if it’s shared with someone else. We’re calling that out. Loudly.
At UNTAG, we believe Valentine’s Day is also about you, your body, and the relationship you’re building with yourself. Whether you’re single, partnered, questioning, happily alone, or somewhere in between, self love is not a consolation prize. It’s the foundation.
So here it is. No clichés. No pressure. Just real, affirming self love tips that actually make sense.
Self Love Tip 1: Wear Something That Feels Like You
This is a hill we will absolutely die on. What you wear directly affects how you feel in your body.
Self love is choosing underwear, binders, tucking wear, or lingerie that supports you instead of fighting you. Not because it looks good for someone else, but because it helps you breathe easier, stand taller, and move more comfortably through your day.
If that means compression today, great. If it means softness and zero structure tomorrow, also great. Your needs can change. That’s allowed.
Self Love Tip 2: Stop Forcing Yourself Into A Mood
You do not owe Valentine’s Day a specific vibe.
You don’t have to feel sexy.
You don’t have to feel romantic.
You don’t have to feel grateful, healed, or confident.
Real self love sometimes looks like saying: today is just a day, and I get to meet myself where I’m at. Put on a comfort outfit. Cancel plans if needed. Order food you actually want. Rest without guilt.
Forcing joy is not self love. Listening to yourself is.
Self Love Tip 3: Touch Doesn’t Have To Be Sexual To Be Valid
Touch is a basic human need, and it doesn’t have to come from a partner.
A warm shower.
Lotion after you dry off.
A binder that fits right.
Fabric that doesn’t itch, pinch, or dig in.
Gentle, intentional touch can help you reconnect with your body in a safe way. Especially if your relationship with your body has been complicated. Especially if dysphoria shows up unexpectedly.
This counts. It all counts.
Self Love Tip 4: Set Boundaries Around Valentine’s Content
Another strong opinion. Curate your feed.
If scrolling makes you feel lonely, inadequate, or behind in life, it’s okay to mute, unfollow, or log off entirely. Valentine’s Day is not a measuring stick for your worth, desirability, or success.
Protecting your mental health is an act of self respect.
Self Love Tip 5: Celebrate Your Body For What It Does, Not How It Looks
Your body is not an aesthetic project.
It breathes.
It carries you.
It adapts.
It survives.
It changes.
On days where loving how it looks feels impossible, try shifting the focus to what it allows you to experience. Movement, rest, pleasure, safety, expression.
You don’t have to love your body every day to treat it with care.
Valentine’s Day, UNTAGged
At UNTAG, we don’t believe love has one shape, one body, or one timeline. Self love is not selfish. It’s not shallow. It’s not something you unlock after you fix yourself.
It’s something you practice. Slowly. Imperfectly. On days like Valentine’s Day, and on all the others too.
Happy Valentine’s Day.
Be gentle with yourself.
You’re already doing more than you think.
