In this edition of People UNTAGGED we talk with Mishal Weston: a talented designer and artist, who shares her journey of self-discovery and affirmation as a trans woman. Born in Zimbabwe and now residing in South Africa, Mishal opens up about her experiences navigating gender identity, the challenges she faced, and how art has been a crucial part of her journey. Through this conversation, Mishal provides insights and encouragement for others on their own gender journeys, emphasizing the importance of building supportive communities and living authentically.
Mishal, so nice to talk to you! Can you introduce yourself to our readers, please?
So, I'm Mishal Weston, I was born in Zimbabwe to South African and British parents and now live in South Africa. I'm 36, identify as they/she and a trans woman, and work as a designer and artist.
What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
I watch a lot of anime and am very interested in computers and tech. I used to game a lot but cut back to focus on other aspects of life. My free time is now split between my professional work, transitioning into full-time art practice, spending time with my partner, and watching anime.
How has your art journey intersected with your gender identity?
My art practice has been essential in understanding and expressing my identity. Initially, I worked with animal bones and explored masculine and feminine symbols. Later, I documented my transition through photography, collaborating with different photographers. This process has been affirming, helping me see my progress and connect with my ancestry.
Can you share your gender identity story?
My gender identity journey has been a long process. Growing up in Zimbabwe, there were no resources or communities to help me understand my feelings. It was only later, after cross-dressing and seeing a therapist, that I began to uncover my identity. Over about eight years, with the help of therapy, I affirmed my identity as a trans woman. Different points in my journey included identifying as bi-gendered and gender-fluid.
What challenges did you face during this journey?
I had to separate from my religious and strict upbringing to explore my identity. Growing up in Zimbabwe, I didn't have access to queer or trans resources, so it took years of therapy to understand myself. Therapy helped me process my emotions and understand myself better. It was tough, but necessary to prevent my life from falling apart due to unprocessed feelings. I also had to tell my parents, which was challenging.
How accessible is medical aid for transitioning in South Africa?
It's a mixed bag. Government services are based on what you can afford, with long waiting lists for hormones and surgeries. I eventually went private due to side effects from the government-prescribed treatments. Medical aid can cover some costs but often sees procedures as cosmetic. The waiting list for surgery in the government system is over 30 years, which is impractical.
And what kind of gender affirming products are available?
As far as I know, binders can be found, but I haven't searched in a while. I did find a brand with cotton undies, which are okayish to tuck if I wear a size too small. But then I have to worry about circulation issues. So that's the tricky part. But actually through a friend I found out about the UNTAG products. I'm very excited to use more of them in the future.
What has been a silver lining for you during tough times?
Allyship has been a silver lining. Unexpected support from people has been comforting. Meeting accepting individuals has made a big difference, especially when expressing my identity felt daunting.
Is there something you are most proud of related to your gender identity?
I feel pride when younger queer people see me as a queer or trans elder. It's affirming to be seen that way, although it can be tiring at times. Being a source of support and inspiration for others is something I cherish. It feels rewarding to know that my experiences can help guide others on their journeys.
Where do you feel you stand now in your personal transition?
My transition is part of me, but not my whole personality. My focus now is on my art and career. When I was hyper-focused on my transition, it led to dark places. Now, I aim to live a good life, affirming my identity where I can and focusing on what makes me happy. I try to balance my transition with other aspects of my life, like my art and relationships, so it doesn't become the sole focus.
How would you describe the LGBTQAI+ community in Cape Town?
It's a diverse but sometimes segregated space due to historical divides. Younger generations are making it more integrated. Previously, it was dominated by white gay men and felt exclusive, but pride events and community activities are becoming more inclusive. Despite this progress, challenges like gender-based violence and conservatism remain. There's still a long way to go, but it's encouraging to see more acceptance and support within the community.
What message do you have for the community?
Don't let the affirmation journey become your whole journey. Build a healthy, chosen family that crosses cultures and age groups. Diverse support systems are crucial. It's important to surround yourself with people who support and understand you, regardless of age or background.
How have you managed to build a diverse support system?
I'm lucky to have friends across age groups, which keeps me grounded and helps me understand different perspectives. Seeing how different generations process things is encouraging. It's interesting to see how different age groups handle and understand issues, and it helps me stay connected to various perspectives.
Find out more about Mish here: https://www.instagram.com/mishalweston/ and look at the images below.
Image credits
Title image above: Bernard Brand
Black & white portrait: Aiden Tobias
Silver bodypaint: Mikhailia Petersen
White blouse & snake: Michael Goldsmid
