Celebrating the beautiful, vast spectrum of gender identity and expression is very important in our opinion. Today, we want to shine a light on a specific and incredibly important day in the community: Agender Pride Day, celebrated every year on May 19th.
Whether you are agender yourself, questioning your identity, or looking to be a better ally, let’s dive into what this day means and why visibility matters.
What does it mean to be agender?
To understand Agender Pride Day, we first need to look at the word itself. The prefix "a-" means "without." So, quite literally, being agender means being without gender.
While every individual's experience is unique, people who identify as agender often describe it in a few different ways:
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Genderless: Feeling like you completely lack a gender identity.
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Gender neutral: Identifying with a space that is completely independent of the traditional male or female spectrum.
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Neutrois or null: Feeling a distinct absence of gender altogether.
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Undecided or indifferent: Choosing not to label your gender experience because no traditional terms fit.
It is important to remember that being agender is not the same as being non-binary, though it does fall under the non-binary and transgender umbrellas. While many non-binary people feel their gender is a mix, a blur, or something completely different from male or female, agender folks generally feel the absence of gender.
The story behind the flag
Like many identities within the LGBTQIA+ community, the agender community has its own flag, designed in 2014 by Salem X. Every color on the flag holds a specific meaning:
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Black and white stripes: Represent the complete absence of gender.
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Gray stripes: Represent being semi-genderless or in-between.
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Green stripe: Represents non-binary identities, because green is the inverse of purple (a color often associated with the mix of traditional male and female genders).
Whenever you see this flag flying, it is a reminder of a community that refuses to be boxed into societal expectations of what gender "should" be.
Why we celebrate Agender Pride Day
For a long time, the global conversation around gender has been strictly binary. Even as awareness for trans and non-binary identities grows, the concept of having no gender at all can still be misunderstood or overlooked.
Agender Pride Day is all about fighting that erasure. It is a day to:
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Boost visibility: To show the world that agender people exist, thrive, and deserve to be recognized.
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Build community: To help agender individuals connect with one another, share stories, and feel less alone.
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Educate allies: To give friends, family, and coworkers the tools to understand and support the agender people in their lives.
How to be a great ally to agender folks
Supporting your agender friends and loved ones is pretty straightforward, and it all starts with respect. Here are a few ways to practice good allyship:
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Never assume pronouns: Agender people use all kinds of pronouns. While many prefer they/them, others might use neopronouns like ze/zir, or even stick to traditional pronouns like he/him or she/her. Always ask respectfully and use what they prefer.
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Separate gender identity from expression: Someone’s gender identity is internal, but how they dress is external. An agender person might wear highly feminine, masculine, or completely gender-neutral clothing. Their outfit choices do not change the validity of their identity.
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Use gender-neutral language: Try swapping out gendered greetings like "Hey guys" or "Ladies and gentlemen" for more inclusive options like "Hey everyone" or "Hi folks."
Our mission has always been to help you feel comfortable and authentic in your own skin, exactly as you are. To our agender community members: we see you, we celebrate you, and we are so proud to stand with you today and every day.
Happy Agender Pride Day!
